Have you ever?

[fable]

Have you ever wondered if you should say something or not because it would make you seem less feminine? Oh wait, that's right, I'm one of the few women here. Probably the only one (if I'm not, don't take offense), that still believes a woman is better off serving their man. I know this may seem unreal to most people here (and trust me I have some working to do on it myself), but a woman's place is in the home. We were made to help our husband and to submit. Not to raise our voices and act masculine.  Now that of course only applies if your man is deserving of such a lady. He need not be perfect, no one is, he just can't be an insensitive jerk who thinks he can order his woman around just cause she will listen. When he respects her thoughts and feelings, but knows the final word is his, then he deserves a submissive wife. Like I said, I have some work to do on myself, but enough respect is given to me (and he knows that I am not stupid, so takes my thoughts into consideration), that the control of our lives needs to go to my husband.




Now tell me again why most men here have objections to Christianity. Then again I am not the most strict of Christians. The basics are covered, I just keep an open mind about some things.  I'm just saying.  I have to wonder if anyone will read this. I hope it isn't too embarrassing for techb. maybe I shouldn't post... lets see...

[p_2001]

Have you ever wondered if you should say something or not because it would make you seem less feminine? Oh wait, that's right, I'm one of the few women here. Probably the only one (if I'm not, don't take offense), that still believes a woman is better off serving their man. I know this may seem unreal to most people here (and trust me I have some working to do on it myself), but a woman's place is in the home. We were made to help our husband and to submit. Not to raise our voices and act masculine.  Now that of course only applies if your man is deserving of such a lady. He need not be perfect, no one is, he just can't be an insensitive jerk who thinks he can order his woman around just cause she will listen. When he respects her thoughts and feelings, but knows the final word is his, then he deserves a submissive wife. Like I said, I have some work to do on myself, but enough respect is given to me (and he knows that I am not stupid, so takes my thoughts into consideration), that the control of our lives needs to go to my husband.




Now tell me again why most men here have objections to Christianity. Then again I am not the most strict of Christians. The basics are covered, I just keep an open mind about some things.  I'm just saying.  I have to wonder if anyone will read this. I hope it isn't too embarrassing for techb. maybe I shouldn't post... lets see...

i don't have any experience in relationships.. But when i do think about it, I imagine a girl who is her own person.. Someone who had her own thoughts and holds her own as long as she is correct.
I would like to be witha girl who understands.. Knows when to compromise and when not to.

someone who knows her area of expertise and takes lead and knows my own areas and follows my lead.
I would like a companion, not a pet you can have sex with. someone who is not afraid to argue as long as she believes that she is right but not arrogant either that she won't accept defeat when proven wrong.


I would like her to be my friend, an equal, who walks by my side.. Not behind me.

[s3my0n]

Good to know the world still stands against the religion of feminism and that there are women who understand the roles and strengths of gender that were practiced thousands of years.
Women and men are equal but not the same.

OP research into orthodox Christianity.

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http://www.orthodoxchristian.info/

[Deque]

That is an interesting topic, fable. To answer the question: No, I haven't. There has never been a reason for me to think about this.

My opinion is staying at home and serving the man should be a matter of choice. If you like it and if you are happy with it, then do it.
I couldn't be happy with a homelife. I want to work, I want to be independend and achieve something. Staying at home would make me depressive.

My husband likes me, because I am the way I am. He doesn't want a submissive wife. Either we make our decisions together or it is the one who has more competence in this matter. So being submissive or dominant is nothing permanent, it depends on the knowledge and experience in the matter of question. The competence doesn't always lie in fields that are seen as typical for the gender. Living like this has proven to be the best way for us.

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i don't have any experience in relationships.. But when i do think about it, I imagine a girl who is her own person.. Someone who had her own thoughts and holds her own as long as she is correct.
I would like to be witha girl who understands.. Knows when to compromise and when not to.

someone who knows her area of expertise and takes lead and knows my own areas and follows my lead.
I would like a companion, not a pet you can have sex with. someone who is not afraid to argue as long as she believes that she is right but not arrogant either that she won't accept defeat when proven wrong.


I would like her to be my friend, an equal, who walks by my side.. Not behind me.

*nods* I feel the same (gender inverted).

[th3gr3yh4nd]

Probably the only one (if I'm not, don't take offense), that still believes a woman is better off serving their man. I know this may seem unreal to most people here (and trust me I have some working to do on it myself), but a woman's place is in the home. We were made to help our husband and to submit. Not to raise our voices and act masculine.  Now that of course only applies if your man is deserving of such a lady. He need not be perfect, no one is, he just can't be an insensitive jerk who thinks he can order his woman around just cause she will listen. When he respects her thoughts and feelings, but knows the final word is his, then he deserves a submissive wife. Like I said, I have some work to do on myself, but enough respect is given to me (and he knows that I am not stupid, so takes my thoughts into consideration), that the control of our lives needs to go to my husband.

Now tell me again why most men here have objections to Christianity. Then again I am not the most strict of Christians. The basics are covered, I just keep an open mind about some things.  I'm just saying.  I have to wonder if anyone will read this. I hope it isn't too embarrassing for techb. maybe I shouldn't post... lets see...

Damn woman... we are a team of 5 members, a mix of guys and girls, and we were all said "defuq"... you are 1 in a million, and a good one too... keep that attitude... if it doesn't keep you this man, it will keep any other... plus, that is the best format of that opinion i have ever seen... we are gonna hang it on our office =)

[namespace7]

I think that even though women should have ambitions, dreams, desires, projects, jobs (if they want to) and every other thing that a person might want, women should ALWAYS submit to their husbands and acknowledge the fact that a husband is the boss of the family. Simple.
If there is more then one boss in anything, then very soon problems arise. There must be hierarchy. Husband > wife > children. Most happy and longest-surviving families are families where a wife chooses to submit to the husband, and acknowledges him as the head of the family. It is not a speculation. It is a fact. I can say that from what I saw in my friends' lifes, and even what other people are saying. You can do some research on this. Even celebrities say the same thing.

Edit: I am a Christian (I believe in God and choose to be a christian because of how much more peaceful and happy my life became after becoming a christian. Simple. Even if God did not I would be a christian, just because this lifestyle has so many advantages. Of course god does exist, so that makes it even more amazing... anyway thats a different discussion). However, even people who are not christians often choose to accept the same point view about husband as a head of the house. Most who don't, experience failed relationships and marriages. Proven from the stories of celebrities, people and personal friends.

[techb]

I have to add, I had no part in this. This is really how she feels and acts. Since day one, she has been like this. I just lucked out.


I respect her wishes and don't treat her like dirt, I know she is a human and I listen to her opinions along with advice.

[Stackprotector]

Sorry, i am not reading all replies. But i think this is plain stupidity. A women is made to seduce the strongest men and make them fuck the womens. Nothing more. Because WE men thought.. oh well, we are powerful and we are MADE to be jealous and protective about the women we feel attracted to... lets just say it's good to make her loyal to you like a slave..

Women who believe this, are only limiting their own life's, who could be full of passion and experiences.

[namespace7]

Come on factionwars, she ain't saying that she does nothing else but serve her husband. Did she say that? No.

She is just stating her view on the importance of submitting to the husband and that women's place is at home, which makes a lot of sense if you just think about it. If a lady is married and especially has kids, then most of her time will be occupied by taking care of the kids and teaching them, as well as looking after the house (food and stuff like that). The husband goes and makes the money. I have seen so many families where the mother is always busy thinking about her career and doesn't even have time for kids, or the energy to be with the husband.

Should women not pursue some career? Depends on many factors. In some case they should in some they should not. The most important thing is this: they should only do so if it does not affect the family (kids and husband) in directly negative ways.

Also, just because they are at home, doesn't mean they can not learn, explore, advance, discover and achieve.

Just my point of view. I won't get married until I can fully support a family, so that my wife wouldn't have to work all day just to make the ends meet, sacrificing time that should be invested into the children and family.

[IFailStuff]

Fuck what others think, be you. If they dont like you then they don't understand/respect you.

[fable]

Sorry, i am not reading all replies. But i think this is plain stupidity. A women is made to seduce the strongest men and make them fuck the womens. Nothing more. Because WE men thought.. oh well, we are powerful and we are MADE to be jealous and protective about the women we feel attracted to... lets just say it's good to make her loyal to you like a slave..

Women who believe this, are only limiting their own life's, who could be full of passion and experiences.

I saw my own family destroyed because my mom did not let my dad have the final say. She is a very well educated and independent woman, but growing up I wished she wasn't working all the time and could teach me to sew and cook. I think it caused me a lot of emotional damage for not having her there when I needed her and for her upsetting the natural order of a man in charge.

I'm not saying women can't be educated or have amazing life experiences. I feel quite educated and have plenty of amazing moments in life. I'm just saying that personally I feel more fulfilled in life when I can make sure the house is clean and my husband is well taken care of. It just gives me happiness.

[kateus]

Hey fable, I think gender roles really depend on the two people who are in the relationship. If that's what works for you that's awesome. I know I once had a super feminist girlfriend and really hated it, and I've had more dependent girlfriends that were okay. Now I have one that makes us more equally working for each other, we share doing laundry and cooking as well as some of the less feminine stuff. So whatever makes you feel fulfilled is what is best for you, and I'm glad that's what you have

[d0xr0cker]

Whatever floats your boat! If it's not my girlfriend or my family...Its not my business to tell you how to live your life