Feeling out of place

[Enyeto]

On a daily basis I seem to ponder on the fact that my life isn't Typical. I have 1 foot in the so called Brainiac world and another in the athletic world. Throughout High school I played Football, and also did Wrestling and Weightlifting. So many people saw me as a gifted jock. Having placed 3rd 2 times for Wrestling in the heavyweight class, one of the captains of the Football team during our 2 back to back state title years, plus 2 time defensive MVP and All American. and placing 2nd 3 times in states for weightlifting makes it possible for them to think that. But the other half I spoke of is a guy who was top 1% in a graduating class of 820 students. Scoring 2150 on the SAT's and 35 on the ACT's while graduating with a 4.4 GPA and having 43 scholarships to choose from. You may say wow like many people , but I hate feeling out of place. I'm a Dominican born guy and when people find this out they seem to hate me even more. I guess they think that  as a minority in the U.S. that I have to be Ignorant or uneducated. I am not in anyway a depressed person but sometimes I ask myself what It would be like to be average. Now I ask do you agree that I am out of place?

[IFailStuff]

Hey cool!

How much do you squat/dead/bench?

[Deque]

Whose life is typical anyways? Ask the guys and gals here. I believe almost none of them will say that they have a typical life. Don't worry about it too much.
I wondered about such things too. But at some point you will realize that it doesn't help with anything. You are who you are.

By the way: You can do what you want. There will always be people who think you should be different than you are.

[Enyeto]

Hey cool!

How much do you squat/dead/bench?

I had a feeling someone was gonna ask that. LOL As of my last max day which was on the 6th of this month. I am at 490 lb bench which is a PR for me. 565 lb Squat, 620 lb Dead lift, 385 lb Power clean, and 370 lb Clean and Jerk. I am aiming for 500 Bench next Max day which will be in 2 months. and for the Metric system users 222.26 kg Bench, 256.28 kg Squat, 281.227 kg dead lift, 174.633 kg power clean, and 167.829 clean and jerk. I have a workout fetish ROFL.   

Whose life is typical anyways? Ask the guys and gals here. I believe almost none of them will say that they have a typical life. Don't worry about it too much.
I wondered about such things too. But at some point you will realize that it doesn't help with anything. You are who you are.

By the way: You can do what you want. There will always be people who think you should be different than you are.

thats is true for everyone isn't it. I wonder why people judge so much sometimes. Hypocrisy is so complex it needs to have a course made for it.

[Deque]

  thats is true for everyone isn't it. I wonder why people judge so much sometimes. Hypocrisy is so complex it needs to have a course made for it.

Because everyone thinks he/she is good at judging people and pigeonholing someone makes life very easy, doesn't it? People hate uncertainty and a man being an athlet and a brainiac is something unexpected. A woman being good in computer science is unexpected as well for most people. We make their lifes hard, because they suddenly feel inable to pigeonhole us and of course it is our fault, why aren't we just what we seem to be?
Ok, that was probably exaggerated. Little surprises make people interesting as well, but in your case it is also success that people envy. Being humble helps a bit.

[Enyeto]

Because everyone thinks he/she is good at judging people and pigeonholing someone makes life very easy, doesn't it? People hate uncertainty and a man being an athlet and a brainiac is something unexpected. A woman being good in computer science is unexpected as well for most people. We make their lifes hard, because they suddenly feel inable to pigeonhole us and of course it is our fault, why aren't we just what we seem to be?
Ok, that was probably exaggerated. Little surprises make people interesting as well, but in your case it is also success that people envy. Being humble helps a bit.

True but Humble is what I strive for. and I have never made anyone think i even boasted. I keep things to myself and let people have their moments. but after the fact when people find out I could do something better than them they get mad. like cmon i let you have your moment and didn't say a a word, but If i did they would be mad still. Thats another thing people don't know what they want.

[le0nid4s]

Think of it this way. Your an incredibly gifted individual capable of doing extraordinary things. So when others who are either trying to be good at athletics or academia don't do as well as you they get frustrated. Especially when you're able to excel in multiple things, where as they feel that they are falling short in there one area of interest.
We had one kid like you at my high school who was incredibly gifted, but unlike some other individuals who posses his skill set he was respectful and humble. I always looked up to the kid as a person to strive to be like, but sometimes would catch myself being jealous of him and the life that he lived.
But this was only evidence of my own short comings. No matter how anybody ever felt about the kid he was still an outstanding athlete, scholar, and a great person in general.
And also who needs to feel in place. Just enjoy life and be happy, because as my grandma always says. Be happy because life is to short.

[Enyeto]

Think of it this way. Your an incredibly gifted individual capable of doing extraordinary things. So when others who are either trying to be good at athletics or academia don't do as well as you they get frustrated. Especially when you're able to excel in multiple things, where as they feel that they are falling short in there one area of interest.
We had one kid like you at my high school who was incredibly gifted, but unlike some other individuals who posses his skill set he was respectful and humble. I always looked up to the kid as a person to strive to be like, but sometimes would catch myself being jealous of him and the life that he lived.
But this was only evidence of my own short comings. No matter how anybody ever felt about the kid he was still an outstanding athlete, scholar, and a great person in general.
And also who needs to feel in place. Just enjoy life and be happy, because as my grandma always says. Be happy because life is to short.

Thank you. and I am humble and the reason i feel out of place is because many of my so called friends ended up turning their backs when college started and I was angry for awhile since most of them only graduated because of my efforts to help them with anything academic. So i felt entirely used by people i trusted.

[icon]

Thanks for the resume lol.

But seriously, I find myself in the same boat as you. Not *exactly* those scores, but enough to get into one of the best schools in the world. I always saw the physical side as just a means to an end, and not being fit just to be fit. I always wanted to work for more, hm, *special* organizations. The combination of fitness and cyberwar has put me on a pretty good track.

Dude, fuck normal people. The standard has become so low these days, normal is substandard. And in my experience, all the cool jobs don't want normal people.

[Darkvision]

Now this is a fun thread, im gonna jump in


So first off: "I wish i was average" i wouldnt say ive ever wished it, but i have contemplated it. more or less to try to get a better understanding of my own self. Sure some times its occasionally seemed like it wouldnt be a bad idea, their are a (few) benefits to being oblivious. But after a great deal of pondering i walked away with an even greater appreciation not only for my own mind, but for those who make me seem "average"(aka an idiot). At the end of the day i love how my brain works, even with its flaws. That said, i dont think what your asking/thinking is a bad thing or unusual. Its perfectly normal, and will at the end of it leave you with a greater appreciation of all minds(hopefully!).


Secondly you will(or should) note that most highly successful "jocks" have a head on their shoulders. Part of this is simply that any physical activity involves 3 dimensional thinking, planning, execution, memory, etc. Quite simply the more your brain is capable of handling the better you are likely to be at "sports". Add to this that in most society you cant even get high end sports scholar ships if your grades arnt their(let alone play), the days of "dumb jocks"(or should we say successful dumb jocks) is in the past, if it was ever anywhere.

[Phage]

Wrestling huh? I'm a wrestling coach myself. What kind of wrestling, free style? But what you're experiencing now is completely normal. A lot of people can't stand that there are someone smarter or in some way better than them around.