Oke let me tell you one thing, the first day you stop NM is the last day of all your trouble.
Heck even world peace is near.
Try this;
kill all network manager etc related shit.
(Which distro are you using?, ubuntu can be a real bitch with this.)
Do;
wpa_passphrase YOUR_SSID SECRETP@SSW0RD > YOUR_SSID.conf
wpa_supplicant -Dwext -i wlan0 -c YOUR_SSID.conf
wpa_supplicant -Dwext -i wlan1 -c YOUR_SSID.conf
Do a manual DHCP request with dhcpcd or whatevers in your distro.
This should work.
Remember that rfkill might be a buzz killer.
btw iwconfig -a doesnt show anything?