But if she's going to a bar every week/end just to get fucked by random dudes, isn't she a slut? there's no bad in having sex and hell, you can do that every day for what I care. The point of this thread was that she's probably doing it every week with random dudes.
Why is it bad to have sex with random guys? Slut is derogatory and an *insult*. Sex is an immensely pleasurable and rewarding experience. For all you know, she could have depression and the sex would *help* her with her depression and keep her happy. If she is happy, why should you care what her decisions are? Respect her because she is human.
It is her life and you aren't better than her in *any* way that makes it okay for you to judge her as if she is *less than* *you* because you are *no* better, none, than her in that regard. You don't know anything of her life, her experiences, her life story, none, you can't just say "she's a slut" (and therefore bad) because she has sex with multiple guys.
It's completely hypocritical because guys who have sex with multiple girls are "heroes." No, they're not "heroes" nor are girls who "sleep around" are "sluts." What gives you the right to say another human being is worse than you? Put yourself in her place, would you want to be called a slut, would you consider yourself, a slut? I never was nor will be a fan of the "insult her/him because she isn't normal."
Normal is also *entirely* subjective. As with all of these things there is a fundamental flaw in how people view things. Normal is just a "baseline" of what is perceived to be most common and what *society* wants. And it is that "normal" that makes people view others who don't conform, as "bad," in this case, being a "slut."
As I said earlier, you don't know her life, her experiences, etc. You aren't her and aren't privy to her reasons and why she does it. Even if she does it for purely pleasure, is that bad? Guys do it all the time. Why is it bad for a *woman* to do it but *not* a man? There isn't a difference, both women and men, whether lesbian, bi, gay, straight, queer, transgender, black, white, asian, red-head, black haired, etc. are all human. Don't subject a part of the human race to your misperceived notions of what is "normal." What is normal anyways? There is no "normal." Every single one of us are unique, no two of us have identical DNA and none of us have both identical DNA AND the experiences that make us, us. Don't judge people because they don't conform to what *you* believe.
Please. At least try to make the world a better place, one letter, one phrase, at a time. Yes I am biased. Yes I am an optimist. That doesn't make me wrong or right though. Believe what *you* want, after all, you are a unique, wonderful, human who deserves nothing but compassion and care. That doesn't mean you will listen or even care about what I say, but at least I am trying to take this world filled with chaos and make it a little more orderly, fuck whatever thermodynamics says with entropy.
It is your life, do what *you* want to do, but at least let others do what they want to.
